What to do when your kid hits another, or someone's not sharing toys? Don't judge the behaviour, interrupt it.
From the Law of Attraction Parenting ... "Sure if one child is being hurt then you need to intervene quickly, but do it from a loving place - "Whoa! I can see you are getting really angry, let's see if we can work this out better." Both children in a conflict are contributing to the dynamic. So helping each child to get what they want, with respect for the other, is far more productive. It may mean they do play separately for a while - but not as a punishment for not playing nicely.
I also challenge parents to be aware of what drives you in your wanting your child to behave differently. Are you worrying about what other people think? Are you running on automatic based on old beliefs, such as how your parent's raised you? Whose needs are more valid - yours or your child's? On the whole we tend to think if we have fed and clothed our children then after that our needs are more important.
Children need to be loved for who they are, not how they behave. Their natural instinct is to connect, play, smile, and enjoy themselves. Think of a tiny baby, they just respond to the interaction around them. It is our behaviour that teaches them it is not OK to be angry or that we disapprove of their actions."
Source: http://www.law-of-attraction-parenting.com/disciplining-children.html
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